There are infinite uncertainties in life, BUT, for these four things: your position is unshakeable! For these four things: your perspective is undebatable! In fact, your opinion is not only formed but so fully matured that it has spawned subjective ideas of its own…for these four things!
Emotional Facts + Controversial Opinions = the sweet elixir for modern-age debates, good podcasts, and great wars.
Let the PEOPLE and TEMPERAMENTS RISE! Let the TOWERS and TEARS FALL!! For better or worse, these four things are going to hit close to home!
The Eiffel Tower. Foie Gras. Disney’s Sebastian. and YOUR HOMETOWN!
And let the infinity war continue!
“GOTTA HEAR ITS!” >>”do you ever think about the goatwhen you eat goat cheese?” >>”Sebastian was a lobster man.” >>”There’s no minute story about a tiger or lion bro!”
Great to be alive and back to writing another article on the fabulous #loopholesonlife.com! The home of The Infamous Stan & Stitch Podcast! Every week me & my best of pals Stitch love to spend an hour doing a podcast about a topic in life that is giving us pause in our own lives at the moment of that week as we lead up to our one hour podcast. I wanted to take that practice and apply it to my own writing and share with all of my friends today what has been on my mind this week. Well perhaps you could say I’ve been worrying about it………..
Worrying and Stress are such a fundamental part of the human experience. Daily trials and tribulations such as a heavy work load, being late, forgetting something, missing a flight, upcoming major events……the list goes on and on! Happenings such as this are all part of our lives many of which are completely out of our control. So many of us, including myself, sit around and let these unexpected circumstances invade our minds and our thoughts and feelings. They make us unaware of our surroundings and tune out the amazing things and experiences that are going on in our life and put us in this deep dark vessel of thoughtless nothingness where all we are doing is either pulling our hair out, tapping our feet, biting our nails or perhaps a full emotional breakdown! Meanwhile outside our mental doors the world could care less about our small concerns and a symphony of life is happening and we are missing it all.
In all these cases we are completely losing a battle with a guerrilla warfare enemy that is resilient and powerful…..stress and worrying. You see stress and worrying have only two good qualities. (1) You are completely irresponsible and never wake up on time, never meet your promises, miss all appointments, leave others hanging and completely and utterly don’t have your S$%*t together. So stress and worrying hopefully tell you to stop being an idiot jerk and fix it and improve your life making it a good quality to have around for types like this. (2) You have a big heart and stress and worrying are in some ways a kind and almost godly way of proving you have a genuine care and concern for others to the point where you worry and stress more about them than you do yourself! Noble indeed and so many can relate….but does that make it worth it?
Mark Twain seemed to understand this concept so well and he once said “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” He also carried on to profoundly say “worrying is like paying a debt you don’t owe.” How true is that???! You are truly giving up what might be considered the worlds most priceless currency….you’re own time…to spend it on worrying about stupid things that don’t matter. Wake up tomorrow and let your worries go! Give up on the stress you’ve been carrying about at least the stupid little things. I get it you can’t stop worrying or stressing about a sick family member or a trouble friends (as referenced in #2 above); but do you need to be mad for a day or two that your husband or wife forgot to take out the trash or pull the turkey out of the oven? It’s time to let so much of it go & turn that energy into LOVE and as Twain said; you’ll probably look back and laugh that much of it never happened anyway!
There have been a number of things lately in life that have made me ponder the pros and cons of the cellular world we have at our fingertips. Recently my friend, Stitch, from #loopholesonlife podcast broke his phone badly and he is now in “The Cellular Twilight Zone.” The place we all fear as much as death itself!! A place of limited contact & communication to friends & family, lack of text, no social media following or perhaps even more frightening to the masses…he can’t take any pictures or selfies for some time now! Seems like no big deal right?? Couple days without a phone should be easy.
Well my phone is working just fine and perhaps that is what gave me pause to think about this topic and why I wanted to write an article about it. Think of how much your phone is in your face. When I head onto the 1 Train Subway in NYC daily to head to work in a sea of hundreds of people I would bet 85 of them are staring into their cell phone. Hey, that’s ok sometimes! Getting work emails done, catching up on a good book on an app, following up on old text (come on we all do it :). My pause is when we are on that phone in this world and there is opportunity to give that time effort and ENERGY to someone else. When we take a moment in time where another human being is desiring our attention or time and we give it to the cell phone unapologetically instead of the person, place or event. I dare us all to take a day with our children that we only touch the cell phone when they are not in our presence. I challenge you to go to a concert and watch the price of admission song (ie Born to Run at a Springsteen Concert) and DON’T hit record. Do something completely amazing and different…take a sip of your beer…..a deep breathe….and sit back and let your brain and mind absorb everything an artist such as that is giving you in that very special moment in time and savor it. I swear you will go back to that memory in your mind more than you do that video; I know because I’ve done it. On the same note your child will go back the memories of those special days with you where you laughed together & shared special moments in time in unison more than the videos and selfies.
I wrote this article not to pontificate about putting down our cell phones more often but rather to challenge MYSELF and hope that some others might join in on the challenge with me! I am certainly not perfect here and have a mild cell phone addiction especially due to my busy job. So let’s all put down the phones when we can and give that universal energy we put into constant texts and emails instead to those around us seeking our time and attention so badly!! Thanks to my buddy Stitch @loopholesonlife for waking me up to this topic and join us on our podcast #loopholesonlife for more topics like this!!
Behind all of your priorities, decisions, and daily ‘whatevers’, there is one question. A single, often unnerving, unknown — which dictates your daily grind and puppeteers a million other doubts and anxieties.
Amidst life’s innumerous uncertainties is a sole question… the soul question.
If you’re ready, then join Stan and Stitch as they play the part of philosophical Blues Brothers and cover the soul, man!
Bonus Content: Exploring the Soul of Hamilton, Rediscovering the Discoverers of America, Stitch discovers, in horror, that Stan gave him special drink after a fine dining experience that makes you poop without telling him… Beware of DJ Steve!
In a new day’s first blink, as your eyelids open with the slow reveal of a broadway curtain, you find yourself emancipated in a beautiful meadow. A scene which can only be described by a feeling, one of butterfly wings kissing your cheeks as they rhythmically waft the smells of endless possibility and honeysuckle dew…
Now, replay that imagery as the Jaws theme is overlaid on top of it!
Beautiful. Manipulative. Impactful. Let’s unpack the Exotics of Music!
Where to begin? How did it start? Is there an end? Does it even matter as long as there is a pattern between?
In this episode you will (a) discover where music first began*, (b) be inspired by the music you can tune into with no tech required*, and (c) decide whether Stan can sell you on a pull-out couch at a friend’s New York apartment being part of a romantic get away.
*source citation: all facts generated via a series of “aha!” moments… think for yourself and join the revolution!
We’ve all heard it a million times…..Patience is a virtue…..I used to think “how lame” and “what a bunch of BS.” It just has that certain ring to it right?? Sounds like your grandmother is lecturing you from the couch that was on the set of Roseanne with a tea in her hand while you’re trying your hardest to get out for the party while no one is letting you leave! That’s probably because patience doesn’t come in handy as much in our youth. We are young and quick, whimsical and fast pasted. But what we have in being swift we certainly lack in wisdom during those years. Somewhere in the middle of later half of my thirties I found the perfect balance between both. I still live life in the fast lane here in NYC and nothing ever seems to slow down but I also don’t feel anymore like it’s Grandma teaching me about patience being a virtue. Now I know that value…..waiting for things is a very special experience in life. i feel like the world has slowly taught me this lesson through many series of things not going as swiftly as I wanted and I learned along the way. Waiting for a friend, like my friend Stitch who I only get to see in person a few times a year. Waiting for a love as I continue to patiently wait to get an opportunity to love again and be happy. Waiting for a bottle of wine to age and be perfect a few years down the road was an impossibility back in those days! Waiting for yourself….to come around and finally be exactly who you’ve been patiently waiting to be and get to celebrate that moment when you are exactly who you’ve wanted to be as a direct product of your PATIENCE. Don’t get me wrong loyal listeners; patience can be annoying at times and the Department of Motor Vehicles… is the epitome of that! But even then…how good does it feel when you got your license and you’re walking out! Try to embrace patience….try to let it make you grow and know you’ll be strong. Harness the waiting into goodness and make it all the better when you get that sweet reward!
The concept of a New Years Resolution had to be born from the spirit of it being a “good thing.” A time to make some changes and a New Year to signify the right time to let go of the past and those old bad habits and make way for the New. But I think I would dare to say New Years Resolutions are nothing more than a disappointing let down waiting to happen! Allow me to explain…for starters if you are waiting for the New Year to come around to change something you’ve already waited to long. Make the change that you know needs to be made NOW….a random Tuesday in June is just as good of a day to say I will get physically active as is New Years Day; and to be honest you’ll enjoy how much less the Gym is crowded then because of the New Year Resolution people have faded out.
Which leads to the next point; the resolutions always seem to way to big! “I will never have another cigarette,” or “this is the year I loose 40 pounds.” The ambition is noble but I suggest instead of a Grand New Years Resolution we shoot for simply baby steps towards Life Changing Goals- Not Resolutions….If your goal this year is to stop spending as much….lets have a 10% reduction in spending or coffee’s at Starbucks for the first months or two. I have a goal that I would like to re-visit my guitar and my spanish language books this year. I am not calling it a resolution because I don’t know how it will go but I am making it a goal to baby step my way to a life time of being more active this year with practicing my guitar and my spanish language. If by mid to late year I know 3 more songs and can speak a few more sentences in Spanish, then I will be pretty darn proud and that’s a big win for me and my life- Not a chance for such a let down when you think of it that way; right?!
Today I want to write about how can we do all the things we want to do in a life so busy and short. Well….really it’s about commitment, costs and prioritization. If your goals are to be a great employee, workout, learn guitar and improve at Spanish this is a tall order on top of a list that might already include you being a boyfriend/husband or even harder, a parent! So how can you make all this happen? This is a question people need to ask themselves and get results. Life will race away and you will be left in the dust many moons from now wondering why you never sought out any passion other than work or family.
The first is commitment; make sure you are committed to these things and take an honest approach to what you really can and can’t commit to. If your schedule simply won’t let you get away to the gym for any amount of time during the work week due to work and school don’t commit to joining a gym. Perhaps just take runs in the neighborhood at night after the kids are asleep or do in home workouts. Or join the gym for weekends only to get started.
Costs cannot be ignored, learning an instrument, language or cooking can be expensive! Not only the tools to do the job such as instruments; but the teachers don’t come cheap. If you don’t have the costs, I challenge you now; Don’t let that stop you!! get a small loan you can pay back with super low interest; take a second job working one day a week doing something you love. Even simpler, drop something your spending weekly, monthly or yearly to match the lesson costs. You will NEVER REGRET finding time to fulfill your dream to learn something.
Lastly, Prioritize! Whats most important? Well that’s obvious…your family and your job which pays the bills and those commitments which don’t let down family and friends. But sometimes in life it’s all a great compromise. Maybe you need to drop dance class to be able to learn French or drop wine classes in order to get to the gym and be healthy which is high on the list. Many people spend time with a therapist and that too is a priority.
In closing I look forward to you all finding a way to do it all and working towards your goals. I hope this article helped you realize accomplishing your goals isn’t easy but certainly can be achieved. First make a commitment to what you can do! Be weary of your costs and find out if there is a way to achieve a goal without the costs being affected and lastly always be sure to prioritize! Putting the most important issue first is key in life.
Thanksgiving is one of America’s favorite Holidays. I know many friends and family who consider this the best time of the year. I think that it’s important to really enjoy yourself over Thanksgiving and to make the most of this time spent with Family, Friends or even just others who are fortunate enough to spend time with YOU on Thanksgiving. I think that it’s inevitable after such a wonderful meal and perhaps a glass of wine or two 😉 that we take time to re-challenge ourselves to make the Holidays not just one of the most special times of the year but also one of the HEALTHIEST times of year. No; I am not suggesting you don’t indulge on the Thanksgiving Day meal to its gluttonous glory! I am saying that flip the switch heading into holiday cookie and egg nog season and enjoy all those things but keep healthy. Mentally and Physically! Mentally don’t stress about the Holiday season and the gifts you must get; the family you must host; the expectations of cooking. It all really means nothing special if you choose to make it stressful you’ve lost the whole point of it even happening. Let problems and issues that arise this time of year roll off your back. Physically….Pick a few nights of the week to eat a healthy meal and not have a drink. Get to the gym despite the 2 degrees outside and MAKE IT HAPPEN! Lastly, when you are in doubt just remember those days when you were a kid heading into the holidays; the magic, the lights, the stories; Santa! Allow yourself to feel that magic again vs. anything else thrown your way!
Have you ever made progress just to watch it wash away in a mere few days of busy life or fun times? I have….Just when I achieved my goal of being in the best shape of my life in 2018 (which was my NYE resolution 12/31/17) I put a speed bump in place and took a week and a half to eat pizza, drink wine, eat ice cream, stay up late, enjoy bagels, devour steaks and eat burgers & fries. Guess what…it was awesome…I don’t regret it ! But we have to get back on track to our health. Even if FOOD isn’t how you define health bottom line was I didn’t go to the gym, run or even really walk. I was just plain old lazy. So I’m back now and you’ll be pleased to know if you put the time in on yourself in advance a nice week long break actually doesn’t set you back as far as you think! I got some work to do….but I know I’m gonna finish this year meeting my goal 🙂
Good luck to you all! In the trenches with you on life and thanks to #Loopholesonlife.com
That deep cleansing breath you need, but just cannot seem to grasp. That malevolent slave master lynching your limbic system and paralyzing every muscle in your body, the very moment you need to make a move. The sadistic Oz behind the curtain of our every day struggles.
Have you considered the impact umbrellas, Sasquatch, and Indecision have on your every day life?
Whether you have, or have not, listen to today’s episode of LoopholesOnLife to discover the proven 3-step methodology for overcoming indecision!
Otherwise, listen to today’s episode to engage in the heated debate on other key decision points of your life – from the car to your bedroom. From The Notebook to Rambo.
Leave the show knowing, with certainty, that Truffle Hunters, Scat Sniffers, and Sasquatch do indeed exist.
It’s not easy getting back into the regime of finding time to keep healthy, happy and successful in your personal goals and being a parent! Whether you are a parent or not we all have a lot to juggle and the upcoming fall/holiday season typically challenges us all with more work and social commitments. I suggest to make the healthy lifestyle choices to eat really well, keep positive, try to exercise (even if for ten minutes!), get as much rest as possible and most importantly be the best parent, friend or family member you can be! I challenge myself and all of you to set some goals set NOW (instead of on New Years Eve 😉 to make ourselves happy & healthy in our busy groove starting today and thru the fall!
Health is not about being sexy or in shape or anything further. It’s about being the most true form of yourself, the form that CARES for yourself.
When you care about yourself you’ll try to work harder to make yourself better. Don’t ever do it for anyone else, anything else or beyond. Do it because your amazing, God-given body, wants to fly and sail on its own.