New Years Resolutions…Don’t Waste Your Time!

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The concept of a New Years Resolution had to be born from the spirit of it being a “good thing.”  A time to make some changes and a New Year to signify the right time to let go of the past and those old bad habits and make way for the New.  But I think I would dare to say New Years Resolutions are nothing more than a disappointing let down waiting to happen!  Allow me to explain…for starters if you are waiting for the New Year to come around to change something you’ve already waited to long.  Make the change that you know needs to be made NOW….a random Tuesday in June is just as good of a day to say I will get physically active as is New Years Day; and to be honest you’ll enjoy how much less the Gym is crowded then because of the New Year Resolution people have faded out.

Which leads to the next point; the resolutions always seem to way to big!  “I will never have another cigarette,” or “this is the year I loose 40 pounds.”  The ambition is noble but I suggest instead of a Grand New Years Resolution we shoot for simply baby steps towards Life Changing Goals- Not Resolutions….If your goal this year is to stop spending as much….lets have a 10% reduction in spending or coffee’s at Starbucks for the first months or two.  I have a goal that I would like to re-visit my guitar and my spanish language books this year.  I am not calling it a resolution because I don’t know how it will go but I am making it a goal to baby step my way to a life time of being more active this year with practicing my guitar and my spanish language.  If by mid to late year I know 3 more songs and can speak a few more sentences in Spanish, then I will be pretty darn proud and that’s a big win for me and my life- Not a chance for such a let down when you think of it that way; right?!

 

Till Next Time!

Stan

How do we do it all???

Good Day Loyal Followers of Loopholesonlife.com!

Today I want to write about how can we do all the things we want to do in a life so busy and short.  Well….really it’s about commitment, costs and prioritization.  If your goals are to be a great employee, workout, learn guitar and improve at Spanish this is a tall order on top of a list that might already include you being a boyfriend/husband or even harder, a parent!  So how can you make all this happen?  This is a question people need to ask themselves and get results.  Life will race away and you will be left in the dust many moons from now wondering why you never sought out any passion other than work or family.

The first is commitment; make sure you are committed to these things and take an honest approach to what you really can and can’t commit to.   If your schedule simply won’t let you get away to the gym for any amount of time during the work week due to work and school don’t commit to joining a gym.  Perhaps just take runs in the neighborhood at night after the kids are asleep or do in home workouts.  Or join the gym for weekends only to get started.

Costs cannot be ignored, learning an instrument, language or cooking can be expensive!  Not only the tools to do the job such as instruments; but the teachers don’t come cheap.  If you don’t have the costs, I challenge you now;  Don’t let that stop you!!  get a small loan you can pay back with super low interest; take a second job working one day a week doing something you love.  Even simpler, drop something your spending weekly, monthly or yearly to match the lesson costs.  You will NEVER REGRET finding time to fulfill your dream to learn something.

Lastly, Prioritize!  Whats most important?  Well that’s obvious…your family and your job which pays the bills and those commitments which don’t let down family and friends.  But sometimes in life it’s all a great compromise.  Maybe you need to drop dance class to be able to learn French or drop wine classes in order to get to the gym and be healthy which is high on the list.  Many people spend time with a therapist and that too is a priority.

In closing I look forward to you all finding a way to do it all and working towards your goals.  I hope this article helped you realize accomplishing your goals isn’t easy but certainly can be achieved.  First make a commitment to what you can do!  Be weary of your costs and find out if there is a way to achieve a goal without the costs being affected and lastly always be sure to prioritize!  Putting the most important issue first is key in life.

Sincerely,

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Luck, Karma, & Naked on the Streets of New York!

Have you doubted Luck, questioned Karma, or ended up Naked on the streets of New York? 

If you answered “yes” or “no” to any of the above, then you’ll be glad your friends Stan and Stitch were here with you today!!

Together we explore the art of DUMPSTER DIVING and the humility of super-star comparisons…

Together we face a little about lotto, and a lot about luck!

Owls vs. Ravens? Richard Dreyfuss vs. Justin Timberlake?

The answers you know will help us grow!

You’re welcome in advance! 🙂

-Stan & Stitch

Turkey Day Hangover

Thanksgiving is one of America’s favorite Holidays.  I know many friends and family who consider this the best time of the year.  I think that it’s important to really enjoy yourself over Thanksgiving and to make the most of this time spent with Family, Friends or even just others who are fortunate enough to spend time with YOU on Thanksgiving.  I think that it’s inevitable after such a wonderful meal and perhaps a glass of wine or two 😉 that we take time to re-challenge ourselves to make the Holidays not just one of the most special times of the year but also one of the HEALTHIEST times of year.  No; I am not suggesting you don’t indulge on the Thanksgiving Day meal to its gluttonous glory!  I am saying that flip the switch heading into holiday cookie and egg nog season and enjoy all those things but keep healthy.  Mentally and Physically!  Mentally don’t stress about the Holiday season and the gifts you must get; the family you must host; the expectations of cooking.  It all really means nothing special if you choose to make it stressful you’ve lost the whole point of it even happening.  Let problems and issues that arise this time of year roll off your back.   Physically….Pick a few nights of the week to eat a healthy meal and not have a drink.    Get to the gym despite the 2 degrees outside and MAKE IT HAPPEN!  Lastly, when you are in doubt just remember those days when you were a kid heading into the holidays; the magic, the lights, the stories; Santa!  Allow yourself to feel that magic again vs. anything else thrown your way!

Signing off….

Stan

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Got off Track? Get back!

Have you ever made progress just to watch it wash away in a mere few days of busy life or fun times?   I have….Just when I achieved my goal of being in the best shape of my life in 2018 (which was my NYE resolution 12/31/17) I put a speed bump in place and took a week and a half to eat pizza, drink wine, eat ice cream, stay up late, enjoy bagels, devour steaks and eat burgers & fries.  Guess what…it was awesome…I don’t regret it !  But we have to get back on track to our health.  Even if FOOD isn’t how you define health bottom line was I didn’t go to the gym, run or even really walk.  I was just plain old lazy.  So I’m back now and you’ll be pleased to know if you put the time in on yourself in advance a nice week long break actually doesn’t set you back as far as you think!  I got some work to do….but I know I’m gonna finish this year meeting my goal 🙂

Good luck to you all!  In the trenches with you on life and thanks to #Loopholesonlife.com

Yours Truly,

Stan

An Umbrella, a Sasquatch, and Indecision

That deep cleansing breath you need, but just cannot seem to grasp.  That malevolent slave master lynching your limbic system and paralyzing every muscle in your body, the very moment you need to make a move. The sadistic Oz behind the curtain of our every day struggles.

Have you considered the impact umbrellas, Sasquatch, and Indecision have on your every day life?

Whether you have, or have not, listen to today’s episode of LoopholesOnLife to discover the proven 3-step methodology for overcoming indecision!

Otherwise, listen to today’s episode to engage in the heated debate on other key decision points of your life – from the car to your bedroom. From The Notebook to Rambo.

Leave the show knowing, with certainty, that Truffle Hunters, Scat Sniffers, and Sasquatch do indeed exist.

 

 

The Unenviable Life of Washing Machines, and Materialism

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Materialism is a disease that has infested society since the dawn of time… It is important we work to recognize how it shapes the lives of ourselves and our loved ones.

It is also important to pay homage to your appliances which work ever so hard for you as the unsung heroes behind the scenes in your daily grind.

Have you considered the Unenviable Life of Washing Machines, and Materialism?

If you have, you probably should have done this podcast first…

If not… let’s consider the mystical and magnificent roles that both have in our day to day lives together!

 

 

 

The Mysterious Culture of Canada, Swingers, and FEAR!

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Why does the “Star Spangled Banner” play for the winner of the National Anthem Olympics?

How is Canadian wine? What is “the trade”? Where do almonds grow?

…and when a well-dressed creep asks for a raw steak on a cold plate… how does he tip?

Have you experienced the mysteries
of Canada, Swingers, or
Fear?

If not… more mysteries are to come!

If so… no need to relive these questionable memories!  Buuuut, if you must, might as well do so with your friends Stan and Stitch in this episode of Loopholes on Life!

Getting Back in the Groove!

It’s not easy getting back into the regime of finding time to keep healthy, happy and successful in your personal goals and being a parent!  Whether you are a parent or not we all have a lot to juggle and the upcoming fall/holiday season typically challenges us all with more work and social commitments.  I suggest to make the healthy lifestyle choices to eat really well, keep positive, try to exercise (even if for ten minutes!), get as much rest as possible and most importantly be the best parent, friend or family member you can be!  I challenge myself and all of you to set some goals set NOW (instead of on New Years Eve 😉 to make ourselves happy & healthy in our busy groove starting today and thru the fall!

 

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Dreams, Floss, and the Importance of Depeche Mode!

The importance of Dreams, Floss and Depeche Mode (and Ace of Base and Cheap Beer!) - Stand and Stitch

How did a Disney Villain help Stitch lucid dream?

What if we neglected a third of our woken day the way we do a third of our life?

and why are cheap beers, old man shoes, Depeche Mode, Ace of Base, and good dental hygiene relevant…?

Answer all of these questions and win a prize. Learn the rest by listening to todays podcast “Dreams, Floss, and the Importance of Depeche Mode“!!

Don’t Play from Behind! Be healthy and Be happy – Here’s How!

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Health is not about being sexy or in shape or anything further.  It’s about being the most true form of yourself,  the form that CARES for yourself.

When you care about yourself you’ll try to work harder to make yourself better.  Don’t ever do it for anyone else, anything else or beyond.  Do it because your amazing, God-given body, wants to fly and sail on its own.

Let’s fly and Sail together !

The Butterfly, the Spider Licker and Addiction

What is addiction?

How do we overcome it?

And what would inspire Stitch to lick a spider?

Join two lifelong friends as they seek answers to these physiological, psychological, and troubling questions, in the inaugural podcast of Stan & Stitch!

Keeping Trust, Needing Love

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Trust those who keep it;

Love all who need it.

When your kids ask… “What’s life all about?”

What’s the hardest question a kid has ever asked you?

The simplest questions sometimes seem to be our hardest to answer, especially when children are doing the asking!

This was my attempt at an “ALL ENCOMPASSING” response to that question: “INFINITY BACKWARDS”:

What it takes to Love… from falling in to staying in

those who fall in love, learn to kiss nice and hug tight.

those who stay in love, learn how to fight right.

uncharacteristically concise for me….why?

knowing what it takes is simple.

doing what it takes? the second that feels simple, one of you is not trying hard enough! 🙂

 

Happy 2017 world!

Measure of Goodness

For GOODNESS sake!

goodness-overcoming-evil-2016“Measure the goodness of an individual…
…by their reaction time, to their own evil!”

The GREATEST Gift you can Give to Humanity?

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“The GREATEST gift you can give to humanity?
Conquer your own Demons…
…so you do not pass them down to the next generation”

Want to improve the world?  Improve yourself… the rest will follow.

The Wisdom of Master Splinter

Master Splinter Quote: We Choose What Holds us Back, and what Moves us Forward

“We choose what holds us back…
…and what moves us forward.”

~Master Splinter

What once was Black and White is now Fifty Shades of Gray

WARNING: As the herd of Valentines weekend movie-goers eagerly prepare to contribute to what is sure to be jaw-dropping box-office numbers — the following point of view may be as controversial as the film itself…

CLASS was once black and white, now its fifty shades of grey!

The inevitable success of Fifty Shades of Grey is essentially a raised glass to the moral decline of values in the Western world.

BUT WAIT!  Make no mistake… or better yet make mistakes: humanity is not perfect!  And in a world where our experience is based on polarity and relativity, we never will be….AND THAT IS OKAY! Being perfect is not our purpose… nor is that point the purpose of this article.

The purpose is to use the latest of many points on our social trend line to reflect on the real threat our humanity faces: desensitization…. Evil needs to exist in order for “Good” to prevail… We will make mistakes, we will do evil… but will we recognize it?

The biggest obstacle which stands in our way of becoming a more loving and unified world is the blurred lines. Good and Bad used to be two opposing but clear perspectives, now its controversial. Right and wrong used to be Black and White, now it’s many shades of grey.

I admittedly have not read this book, so am not passing judgement on it — and CERTAINLY not on it’s readers or movie watchers.  I wrestle with my own demons — and they would gain ground on me if I focused too much on the wrestling matches of others.

I am however using the controversial buzz as a springboard to remember that the single most important thing to do on the road to becoming a good person IS NOT to be flawless, but rather, to recognize your flaws.  As long as we, as individuals and as a society, can be true to ourselves and discern what is making us weaker or stronger — then by simply recognizing our negatives becomes a positives…

There is NO greater strength than the recognition of one’s own weaknesses.

I HOPE ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND! It’s okay to indulge in a drink, some not-so-healthy eats, or the guilty pleasure of your choice, but as you do, I challenge you to challenge yourself with some self-evaluation and ask yourself the question “why”?  Our weakness is demonstrated in how we ‘chase those highs’ — we enjoy the junk food so eat more and more of it, we enjoy the drink so go from 1 to 5…  We lose ourselves in the chase of those highs, and become prisoners of our own device. Our strength, however, is demonstrated in our ability to enjoy those guilty pleasures with the discipline to do so in moderation.

And if you’ve already chosen to see it, then…

I HOPE YOU ENJOY THE SHOW!  And as you do, I challenge you to challenge yourself to recognize how the message of it, or other creations, can change you and/or others around you. Then discern whether or not the change reflects the type of person you want to be and/or the type of world you want to live in.

I HOPE YOU ENJOY YOUR LIFE! It’s okay to make mistakes — we are not perfect, on purpose! Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.  As you enjoy your life, I challenge you to challenge yourself to simply acknowledge them!

After all, WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES... the best of us will work on them, the worst of us won’t recognize them.

“The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn’t exist.”
~Kevin Spacey, “The Usual Suspects”

There’s only two sides; from Day to Night, Dark to Light, and Death to Life…
But between the extremes we lose site of what once was Black and White.
So why would you and I use the grey-scale for weighing Wrong and Right?

ENJOY!

Lord, help me to be great

Saying this prayer, OUT LOUD, (most) every night, is the single most important contributor to making me a (somewhat) better person than I used to be.

Lord, help me to be great -- or at least better.

 

Lord, help me to be:
Courageous, Selfless, Loving,
Patient, Peaceful, Humble,
Hard working and Forgiving.

Help me to be a great husband,
a great father, and a great human being.

And help me to always remember.

 

PERSONAL TIP:
Every small epiphany I have in life, I ‘assign’ to this prayer… Every time I say I’ll pray for someone, I assign it to “always remember”…. So every time I say it, in my heart, those folks share a piece of my prayer…

I also wear, thanks to my wife, a necklace with the word “REMEMBER” on it — so I remember to never forget ;).

A touching life, tragic death, small gesture, and big surprise

Big and small; long and short…do you know what these words mean?  However you  may define them today, you will redefine them tomorrow.   Our perspective and relative perception of these words changes as we go and grow — the trick is to avoid letting these words become part of your decision making process.  A recent experience of mine reinforced just how relevant this ‘loophole’ is, as my close friend’s younger brother passed away. Here is the story, or the long and the short of it:

A SMALL GESTURE IN THE WAKE OF A LOVED ONE’S DEATH

After hearing the news that his younger brother passed away unexpectedly at 23 years old, I attempted twice to speak to my friend without breaking down myself, to no avail.

Even if I had ‘words of wisdom’ at the time, which I did not, it was not the time for them. Sometimes it is just time to mourn.  I couldn’t offer some profound advice that would change his perspective on the loss, and yet, I couldn’t merely be the friend that sends a fruit basket or some flowers.

As I contemplated what to do, I read his brother’s facebook wall… the messages were amazing.  The amount of people that were inspired by his brother was inspiring itself.  I decided my small contribution would be.

I compiled pictures from his wall, batched up the quotes, looked at his ‘musical likes’ and mixed an audio based on two Modest Mouse songs (as well as some covers which transitioned them together well).   Since they have family in Mexico, I did  my due diligence to try to translate some of those quotes so they were not overlooked — they were some of the most profound sentiments in the end.

I finally had the words, through others, to put together a message… Nothing that has not been done before in one capacity or another, but something I thought was a good summation of his life and impact.

A BIG SURPRISE IN THE WAKE OF A SMALL GESTURE

Long story short – my friend greatly appreciated the gesture… That is all I hoped for, giving my friend just a small bit of peace in a very tough time — by providing a him something he could reference to remember how his little bro left his mark on this world and in others.

Then — a week later, 2 days before mothers day, it was me who was touched.

I received a call from my friend, who said his mother would like to talk to me.  I had not seen her for over a decade, since we’ve lived states apart ever since college.  I immediately expressed my condolences.  And then his soft-spoken mom said to me words that I will never forget:

“I just wanted to thank you very much for the video. It makes me sad then happy, and it was the only thing that has given me peace. It helped me to believe in God again”.

Once again I cannot speak on this topic without shedding a tear – but this time, because it was amazing to me how something I almost considered NOT doing because I didn’t know how it would be received, could be the one thing to give a brokenhearted mother a bit of peace.

My friend told me his family watched the video together on Mothers day, and his mothers day gift to his mom was a tablet with a link to the youtube video, so she could watch it any time…

My lesson learned is to never assume that any gesture is too small if your heart is in the right place… Just as my friend’s little bro had a long lasting effect in a short life — sometimes even the smallest decisions can have the biggest impacts.