“Secret to Success” Loophole

What is the Secret to Success?

Easy one! The secret to success is as simple as…

…understanding that “the secret” is that you SHOULD NOT be seeking this answer through a google search – or through the book – OR through this blog.  The answer you will find in any one of those places is at best, subjective – and at worst, constraining, misinformed and outright manipulative! 

I realize, and embrace, the ‘hypocrisy’ of providing an answer to a question via a vehicle (this blog) that I said should not be the source —- the point is, the best I can do is remind myself, and everyone, that “Success” is a very ambiguous term which is defined by sheer subjectivity.

All I can share is what I consider the “PATH”… which will be as pure/objective as I can keep it!

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How do I overcome jealousy?

Jealousy?  JEALOUSY?!?!  when I typed in “How do I overcome…” the first one was jealousy??  Most jealousy stems from our need to protect our egos; and most egos do not want to admit wrong, and thus, most truly jealous people would not be searching the term “how do I overcome jealousy”.

How do I overcome jealousy?

If someone is typing that question in Google, congratulations, the inaccurate diagnoses of your condition also appears to be the cure!!

Complicated question: “how do I overcome jealousy?”

Simple answer: Continue reading “How do I overcome jealousy?”

Help Wanted: Smile at a Stranger

Help wanted!!

Tomorrow, my small contribution to a better world will be to:

SMILE at a stranger, and be soooo bold as to provide a genuine “hello!” as I walk by.


Sounds easy enough. That means that we probably don’t put enough importance into it’s impact. It’s probably a matter of prioritization versus challenge, because it’s easy enough I would have expected more strangers to smile at me today — yet, they probably would say the same to me, so one of us has to just “break the chain” and do it.

What’s the worst that can happen?  They ignore my hello and receive my smile with a scowl?  Any pain I feel from that is more on me and the unnecessary expectations I assign to the exchange.  Maybe that same person will be, even ever-so slightly, more inclined to smile back next time, or the ‘time’ after that.

Your help is much wanted, and your smile is much appreciated!!! 🙂

Re: to Charles; “Knowing Truth & Discernment”

Hello world,

I’d like to thank Charles for the first contribution, comment and commitment to “loopholes on life”!  While I only began this blog 3 days ago ‘physically’ (Sunday night, 8/19), I’ve been building toward it for the last two and a half years, when I had my first “click” (I’ll explain what exactly I mean by that at some point, for now, think of ‘clicks’ as meaningful milestones for the journey of truth-seekers & ‘game’-changers… or… perhaps more simply put, think of them as true blue epiphanies).

For today’s blog post I’d like to expound on some sage points he alluded to in his post:

I stumbled across this blog. I have been asking a lot of questions lately and looking for answers in places which they would make sense to be found. However, I have found only lies and deceptions that laid the ground work for building societies of followers and none of free thinkers.

A great man once said, “There is not a truth existing which I fear… or would wish unknown to the whole world.” I feel you are liberator of those truths.

I look forward to reading and sharing thoughts on your blog, and to helping make the world a better and more informed place.


I smell what you’re stepping in, Charles, and it smells like roses.  Continue reading “Re: to Charles; “Knowing Truth & Discernment””

Why are we here?

Trendy Question: “WHY ARE WE HERE?”

Having typed “Why are we…” in google, the first suggested search query was “Why are we here?”.

Questions we are all asking about Life, Health & Happiness.

Great question, one I should have anticipated, since it is the question that drives existence and gives meaning to ALL OTHER QUESTIONS!

With Complicated Questions, We Expect Complicated Answers

Many of us have heard it before, but few take advantage of the concept enough:  the most complicated questions often have the SIMPLEST ANSWERS.

At risk of sounding like a ‘cop out’, the answer is quite simple:

Q: “Why are we here?”

A: To pursue the answer to THAT very question.

To be a BIT Less Concise:

As human beings, we often consciously (or subconsciously) “need” specificity in our day to day.  Many of us approach life like a series of tasks – interwoven with a few great moments of down-time (vacations, hobbies, etc.).  This question has existed, and will continue to exist, for all ‘active participants’ of life’s journey — the ultimate answer will be like an infinite jolt of ‘aha moments’.  The jolt will not be due to the answer itself, it will be due to the awareness each individual has in one instance – as they understand the very reason they could not arrive at the answer during their journey.

The most important thing an individual can do is to “overcome the need to ask the question”.  Our awareness to greater truths is most clear when we calm our minds.  As we pursue the answer to this question —- we find that there are many roads to take up one mountain top, many separate lanes converging on the same highway.

Throughout history we have put great importance in those we feel “get it”, from prophets, to scientists, to explorers, to artists. Everyone “gets it” to varying degrees, many even “get it” more than they know.  In fact, as an individual progresses in their understanding of “how it is all connected” – all subject matters begin to converge.  I could go on another huge tangent here, but I’ll save it for another post.

Remember, however, using those types of ‘aware’ individuals throughout time as an example – it seems none of them could convey their comprehension of the answer in such a way that EVERYONE grasps.  Those spiritual, scientific, and creative leaders all expressed the answer the best they could – and it’s ALWAYS a balance of “breadth and depth”.   For example, most religions are founded based on TIMELESS messages which a broad audience could grasp.  Jesus often used parables/metaphor/etc. — having cast a very wide net, breadth; while tailoring his message to his apostles (and thus, “speaking their language”), depth… In the end – the best we can do is accrue information that speaks to our soul throughout our journey, to understand how it is WE learn.   Remember that understanding takes two things, the voice AND the ear. We are diverging from our quest for the answer if we focus too much on “looking for the voice” versus “understanding our ears”.  Once you, timeless truth, “Know Thyself”, you are in a better position to learn about how “Thyself” fits into the greater whole.

The ONLY way I can fathom to help an individual understand the answer to this question is by suggesting the process to learning what you need to learn to understand.

There is a very high probability that by the time “seekers” out there grasp the answer, they will simply no longer care!  Conceptualize, as always, “a world without time” – think about how you would understand this concept in a world without time — and REVISIT this question as you learn other truths about yourself as a microcosm and the greater whole as a macrocosm. At some juncture, the best way to obtain the answer to this question is by being aware of it BUT being at peace with it.  Allow all knowledge, experience, faith, etc. to culminate, build, change and grow together — ask yourself the question with a smile, and in the interim, do not chase down answers, quiet your mind and absorb them.

I’ll summarize my interpretation of the best means to find the answer with the last line in a song I wrote about a year ago:

“So quit asking questions; you’ll find the answers listening;

and be content with being stumped, kind of like the ‘Giving Tree'”

~Loopholes on Life

The Giving Tree was content with being stumped, are you?

About “Trendy Questions”: The answers we are all seeking…

“Trendy Questions” (an overview of this ‘blog category’):

We ask search engines many questions, “How can I…?”, “What is the…?”, “Why should we…?”, “Where do I…stop?” Let’s answer the questions on Google’s behalf! For this category – we can discuss loopholes on life by means of this process: (1a) type a few keywords in a search engine, beginning with a question (what, why, how, when, where – in priority order based on impact 🙂 ). (1b) look at the questions in the auto-suggestion drop list as you type, pick a question for discussion! (2a) add additional words to increase the specificity of the question as desired. (2b or not 2b) that is the question!!

Loophole on Life: Why do I feel anxious & why do I doubt?

Question: “Why do I feel anxious”? “Where does anxiety stem from”? “Why do I doubt myself?”

Loophole: ask yourself how you would feel “IN A WORLD WITHOUT TIME”.

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